Tuesday, September 16, 2008

He Said, She Said.........

Floating around cyber space, i stumbled unto this very interesting argument: WHY MEN LEAVE 

HE SAID....
1. Nagging - This is an honest reason. Ladies, some of you don't realize it but you may nag your partner to death. There is only so much he can take. You may have to ask him to do things more than once but he will eventually get to it. If he doesn't wind up doing it after the third or fourth request, take a moment to find out why before you go into a fit. Did he just get off work? Did he just get home from somewhere? Did he just finish something that may require him to relax for a few minutes? If none of these apply, then he may be just plain lazy and you should be questioning whether you really want him back.

SHE SAID....
Maybe we nag because when we say it gently, it never sticks. That’s one trait that’s common with most women, and everybody knows most ladies nag just to get the much needed attention from their spouses. Men can be overbearing but you don’t see us whining about it the way you guys whine about nagging. That’s because we are used to it and we’ve come to accept it as part of you; so when you do it, we don’t take it personal. Why can’t you guys just do same?

HE SAID....
2. Sex - If it's unsatisfying or you are denying him to the point where he questions whether he is living in a monastery or at home, chances are this is a BIG reason. Is he being unreasonable or are you?

SHE SAID....
Just because you are in the mood doesn’t mean I have to open my legs and its certainly not my fault I can’t do those things you do with your whores.

HE SAID...
3. Love - This is one of the more painful reasons. He may have fallen out of love or may have fallen in love with someone else.

SHE SAID....
Hmn!! Maybe you should have given me a warning that your love had an ‘expiry date’ (I love this response!)

HE SAID...
4. Attraction/Physical Appearance - Some of the reasons I came across were that men just weren't physically attracted to their partners anymore. This was usually coupled with falling out of love or at least it may be what triggered it. Remember ladies, this doesn't mean that you are not attractive. Men have different tastes, enjoy different things, have different pleasures, etc, all women are beautiful.

SHE SAID....
That’s a very selfish reason to leave somebody. Physical attraction?? You were okay with my looks before you came into my life. Infact you ‘begged’ me and told me I was exactly what you were looking for. How did that change all of a sudden???

HE SAID....
5. Excitement - You may not be interested in the same activities as him. He may be an extremist and want to go sky diving or scuba diving with sharks and you may just want to sit at home with a glass of wine and a movie.

SHE SAID.....
So you leave an intelligent, loving, decent, hardworking, beatiful and dutiful woman because she wont go skiing with you ?  :-(  Thats like the dumbest reason so far, not to mention selfish.

HE SAID.....
6. Cheating - There are a number of reasons why men cheat. This could be a whole separate topic in itself but for purposes of this article I will limit it to the most common reason which is physical attraction. When a relationship becomes stagnant and/or there is little to no physical attraction or excitement in the relationship, temptation grows stronger. Particularly in work places where most adultery occurs.


SHE SAID.......
Thats not true, men cheat because they are irresponsible. The want to eat variety of dishes. Its gets boring when you serve them eba every night. They'll love to mix the diet with Beans and rice once in a while. Of course, they will eat the Eba alone for some time without complaining - untill they get tired of it.

HE SAID....
7. Self Esteem - Some men feel emasculated or belittled by their partners to the point where they leave. Some may feel that they are not worthy of the relationship. This is one of those reasons that may require some professional help.

SHE SAID....
Thats why you should go for your 'level' in the first place. Its not my fault that I earn more than you do and I have an IQ 20% more than yours. C'mon give a sister a break, go sort your personality problems and quit the guilt trip.

HE SAID....
8. Kids/marriage - Some men may not want to get married or have kids. Some may want one without the other. Whatever their needs or wants, pushing them into one or both may lead them to walk away from the relationship. Anyhow, if the man you're with doesn't want the same things you want, you should be asking yourself why you are with him in the first place. Ladies, there are plenty of men out there that are looking to get married so don't stress yourself over him. Beside, if this was a serious relationship you should have known in the beginning as to whether or not he was interested in marriage/kids.

SHE SAID.......
perfectly understand that, I just wish you told me on our from the begining.

HE SAID....
9. Commitment - Some men just can't stay committed. For whatever the reason they need to be with different women. Again, this is one of those reasons that can be better explained by a relationship counselor.

SHE SAID.......
Oh you mean some men just don't grow up?? Yea, I know that, it just sucks. Selfish, selfish, selfish!!!!

You did well poster, but I don't lose sleep over why men cheat. Very lousy of you to come up with these excuses when we all know that people 
not men alone cheat because they are  irresposible, selfish, self absorbed, childish and wicked.



I think she did a good job with her replies, I may not agree with everything said here, but some major points were scored by both parties.........

9 comments:

CaramelD said...

This argument has been going on since the beginning of time, I have been trying to understand guys for years and still, to no avail! The truth of the matter is... WE ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY!

geisha.song. said...

jus stumbled on your blog.
i actually like this, and i agree that the bottomline points to the fact that men are at fault. end of story!

~Sirius~ said...

LOL!!!! I think there is no point trying to figure out why these things happen the way they do, everyone should live life everyday as it comes, and put their happiness at priority level 1

Afronuts said...

Interesting argument.

Some of these points are strongly true and eye opening.
Thanks 4 sharing!

Afronuts said...

Insightful and interesting argument!

Thanks for sharing.

the funny things we all say in relationships!

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

interesting
You've given me an idea for my next post lol
love your blog
will definitely blog roll

Rita said...

Men are from Mars...Women are from Venus...And they met on earth...

~Sirius~ said...

@ MsDef Please feel free to eureka and drum roll.....I'll be on your page after I post this comment.
@ Rita I love that theory, works just fine......

Buttercup said...

LOL @ her responses! But yea, i agree with some points..

This is just one of the many mysteries of life..